Coming out about your lifestyle, sexuality or gender can be a terrifying thought for many. I still have many people in my life that don't know that I am a Femdom or that I do adult modeling and human ATM power exchanges. I find it to be challenging to lock a part of who I am away and keep it secret from others because I am proud of who I am and what I am achieving. After a lot of reflecting and then worrying about what others might think I finally decided to speak up and come out about my Femdom life and Findom ATM encounters. It was the scariest thing ever to tell the people I cared about the most what I was doing in secret for the past 10+years and that I was creating FetDungeon. When I did it I felt like I was mainly misunderstood but for the most part received nothing but love.
This social connection with all of you has become so rewarding for me. Yes my journey has been very challenging, (putting yourself out for the world to judge can be a scary and vulnerable experience) people are not always welcoming or as open as they think.
Now that I have come out to my closest circle I don't really care who discovers me or what they think. I feel liberated and a bit more free to tell new friends what I have been doing. I also actually love being an advocate for sex positivity and a voice in the community for women's rights in the industry. I see how many women are choosing to do what I am doing in some way, shape, or form and making a dam good life for themselves under there own terms and I think people need to understand that I am here because I want to be and love what I am doing. Most of the negativity I experienced when coming out was because of misinformation or a lack of understanding and sometimes I guess also ignorance.
Something to think about
Not all s€x workers have s€x or even make conventional content
Even if you only make foot videos you are still considered a s€x worker
Online play is still s€x work, so is being a sugar baby
Not all s€x workers are trafficked, or pimped
Some women see there beauty and strength as a brand and decide to just go for it like I did and make better money than you on there own terms
Labeling me makes no difference because I know who I really am
The growing pains and struggles I have endured really helped me to show others that I am trying to develop a safe consenting place of openness and inclusivity. Slowly I have been able to expand and transform that tiny dull dream of mine into a shining huge reality. Coming out changed my life for the positive in so many ways. The vision I have is moving into clearer focus and I feel so fulfilled to see the small community I created during lockdowns actually grow. Like many of my other social media plugs my INSTAGRAM HAS EXPLODED IN THE PAST YEAR, growing to almost 10,000 followers!! That's with no advertising and no social boosting promoters or bots, just real people finding me somehow and actually connecting to my kinky content like you. To me that's pretty huge. I feel encouraged and inspired to keep going because of each and every one of you donating, supporting, and messaging and telling me to aim for the sky. Thank You! To everyone who has shown support and love for me and my ever evolving kinky ideas I am truly honored. It's so exciting to see what the future holds for content creations, events, new connections, and my developing product line of toys and collectable novelty items. Who knew learning to love myself for who I am and all my perfect imperfections would transform into FetDungeon. I am so fucking grateful you all found me and that I came out about my little Femdom lifestyle secret.
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